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do you think you would be a good parent?

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    not asking whether you want to be one or not (though the nature of the title question does bring that into play) but whether you think you would be a good parent in a future where you did have a child

    for that tiny, tiny subset of pc members who do have children - how do you think you're weighing up compared to what you might have imagined you'd be like?
     
    I am under no delusions at all - I would not be a good parent. I would be a good parent in terms of looking after my children's physical wellbeing, and being supportive of their educational needs, but I am far too bleak and uncaring of a person to be responsible for the development of a young mind. I'm an emotional wreck and in no way capable of providing the love I think all children should have growing up. I'd fuck up my kids even worse than my parents fucked me up.
     
    I hope I will be, and I hope to have a mini-me soon. But I think no one measures up to what they think they should be when it comes to parenting.
     
    I used to really want to be a parent but more recently I've come to the conclusion that as I am, I probably wouldn't be a good one. Even ignoring that I suck with babies and toddlers, I'm too self-centered and like my personal space too much to raise a kid. I love kids but I am in no way suited to raising any with my current mindset.
     
    I always fear I'm not good enough or will make the same mistakes as my parents did with me.
     
    I would be a capable parent, I think. Competent with the physical aspects like having all the dangerous things out of reach and making sure there is healthy food and all. But I would be resentful at all the things I could no longer do with my life, and in some way or another I'm sure that would bleed through into my parenting.
     
    at this current time id probably get annoyed with taking care of a young baby

    but around the age of video games i would finally bond with my child and introduce him or her to all of the amazing games i have come to love
     
    Nope, I'd be a terrible parent. I don't want to explain why.
     
    I think I'd do okay. I know all the things I didn't like as a child and I know I would try to not make those same mistakes as a parent. I feel like I would be a decent parent up until the point where they turn into a moody teenager. I'm not sure how to handle that at all.
     
    I have two kids now, and I think I'm doing a horrible job. I never won't. I wish I had a super confidant reply but I can't muster it here. Both of my kids had horrible colic, which meant for about 3 to 4 months of their lives, they just screamed inconsolably for 12 hours at a time and there was nothing anyone could do. We took them to the doctors, they did their thing... but having your baby scream in your face all the time kind of makes you feel like shit all the time. Silver lining: they DO grow out of it! Just watching them learn to smile and laugh and sit up makes all the sleeplessness and feeling like garbage really worth it. You'll never feel ready to have kids, never. Weirdly, it makes you more concerned for your own well being because it makes you remember all the fucked up things your parents did and makes you so terrified to hurt your own children in the same way by being careless, selfish or stupid. Damn... I hope I'm doing a good job, I just want my kids be be healthy, happy, functional people. If they can do that, then I'll be the most happy. You just can't rely too much on books or advice. You just do what works based on your kid, and go by what helps them to flourish and learn and grow, it won't always be what's suggested or easiest for you as a parent.
     
    I wouldn't be a good parent, and I wouldn't want to make the effort to be one. I'm super okay with that, too. I don't want kids, and my mom told me she doesn't want to be a grandma lol. Suits me
     
    I think I'd be a fun parent. I'm fairly responsible when I want to be, and I don't mind acting like a kid and getting excited by little things or encouraging kids to use their imagination. It also helps that I have all of the same interests as a kid starting young.

    I also really like that kids have all sorts of questions because they're kinda idiots to adult-standards but still really curious about the world. So, sometimes I'll make up answers and occasionally play tricks to keep myself entertained.

    I often psyche myself up and think about how I would handle some more of the delicate topics for my kids. I'm bipolar, so I'd have to have a talk about mental health with them. I also look forward to the "birds and the bees" talk by just yelling "Use a condom!" amongst other helpful facts.

    I really like my life now, though, so a kid is probably a couple years down the road in my 30s.
     
    I think I would like to have a kid someday (most likely adopt), but I don't know if I will be a good parent. Sometimes I let my temper get the best out of me and at the moment I'm not financially stable enough to support a kid. I'm also afraid I might indirectly guilt trip them (in a "oh my gosh I support you and give you a home and this is all the thanks I get") and seem to make my problems be all about me. I don't want my kid to be burden with that.
     
    I think so. I'm 'stern' enough that I don't spoil children more than is necessary, but at the same time down to earth and chill/friendly enough for them to enjoy my presence and connect with me. My brother seems to respect me more than everyone else in the house, even more than mom whom he spends most of his time with haha. Not that I'm interested in having kids anytime soon though.
     
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