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IRL Friends?

Kanzler

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    Tell me about your social life.

    What's your social life like IRL? Do you have many friends or just a few close ones? Are you a shut in or do you go out almost every night? Are you happy with your social life? If not, have you tried anything to change it?
     
    I used to have a better social life when in college, but after we graduated all of us pretty much went our separate ways and hence why I rarely go out to hang out after several years. Many of my high school friends moved out of state for various reasons. I still have interactions with other folks like my co-workers, but they're all twice my age and tend to have their own lives (family and such) after work. I didn't do anything to change it because I wouldn't know how except perhaps going to a bar or something but I'm not really into those kind of things.
     
    I'm decently social at work, but I mainly keep to myself outside of it. I do have one friend who practically lives at my apartment during the weekends, and we hang out all of the time. When I have my days off, I tend to be a lot more social with hanging out with friends and everything, but for the most part you'll find me at home.
     
    Non-existent. That sums up my social life in real life.

    I don't leave the house. So the only friend I have to socialize with happens to live with me. Luckily, he's my super best friend fiance man and I love him loads. But yeah, I'm still the same naive shut-in I've been my entire life.

    It would be nice to have more real life friends, but on top of that, I have to deal with my fiance's bizarre night time schedule, which makes it rather impossible to socialize with any if we even had them. We'd have to wake up at horrid times and lose sleep. Not an ideal situation, overall, but I'm used to it. Nothing I can do about it unless he gets a new job or we move to a place that has more people in common with us.
     
    I think I have a pretty good social life. But it is just me. I could have a better social life if I wanted to but my problem is that I dont go out as much and I prefer to shut my self inside. Its not that I dont go out but I dont go out as much and I feel whenever I go outside that I be judged and I feel ugly whenever I see my reflections in windows or mirrors etc.

    But I love my friends. I have 4 - 6 friends that I can count on to be by my side whenever I am upset.
    There is my best friend L ( I say their names in letters) who I been best friends with since I was five or six years old and we have grown up together. We had our fair share of petty arguing. We once argued over Barbie and Bratz dolls. Looking back it was very funny. Even when I moved to Peterborough she still came over from Coventry to see me which is like a two hour drive.
    I then have my friends J and I who are extremely funny and we have great banter together and are also the girls I hang out with at school. Also One of them is Polish and the other is Indian so I learnt a great deal about their culture which was very interesting.
    Then there is M and S who I love and we share our bond over the mutual bond of Mcdonalds and Hot men.
     
    I have no social life. 8D I don't have anyone to hang out with. I live my life like a hermit when it comes to an actual social life. :c I just don't do very well with meeting new people. I also have severely bad anxiety as well, so I tend to get overwhelmed by going out with people.
     
    In high school, social life was soooo important to try and keep up with. I was so ashamed of sitting around a pokémon forum in my free time. At uni, social life just happened, because I had classmates who shared my party spirit and was part of many clubs, both serious student council like stuff and pure party arranging organisations, sometimes as leader and sometimes as the very lowest scum. There was always some event or party or thing coming up so my calendar was packed. And when it wasn't, I could get my well needed alone time, and maybe sit around roleplaying on a pokémon forum! Felt a bit more okay, I mean, nobody had to know what I did when I was alone.

    After uni... I guess I matured a bit and grew more independent and slightly more confident. Might also have had something to do with finally breaking up with my boyfriend of 4 years. I stopped talking to some toxic people and groups in my life and instead over the past year focused on those I cared the most for and who actually seemed to care for me too. So today I am in a really good place. I have moved to a town where some of the people live with whom I am the most comfortable. I have a fun and kind roomie, I have a best friend in another city whom I meet often enough to travel or have fun with. I have other friends from uni now spread across Sweden since they got work elsewhere, and some I have stopped talking to like I said, because they only kept me around to fill out their ranks I think. I'm not gonna be a nameless footsoldier on their parties (: I'd rather have a cozy evening with only a few dear trustworthy people, because one thing I realized when I finally grew up, is that there is no such thing as "popular" or "cool" anymore here. The only thing that matters is staying happy and keeping the ones you care about happy too.

    And I can also finally say this year that "IRL friends" is starting to become a non-term for me. I talk to my online friends, you guys, almost more than I talk to these people who I can physically touch - ahah bodybuddies! I don't see a need to make a clear distinction anymore. I mean, I've met some IRL, like Abnegation, so he's technically both, right? And I wish I'll be both with many more in the future. Life has only just started (:
     
    I'm only in high school so it's been pretty easy for me. in fact, and this is piss-poor timing considering I have about 5 months left here, I've just completely migrated to a whole new friend group. this is both a result of my old one getting stale as hell / me quickly realizing none of us had anything in common anymore and the fact that a class that me and the rest of the members of this friend group took this year requires some bonding or else we'd all have Dropped Out Of School. so that was a neat little catalyst. other than that I have another friend group that doesn't go to my school that's unfortunately dropped off a bit in the last year or so because one of them went off to college. and then there are a couple others dissociated from any friend group that I'll hang with on occasion. those are usually my love interests. so it goes.
     
    My social life was close to non-existant when I was living in California. That changed when I moved to Houston. I go out almost every day now. xD

    It's pretty cool. I simply found a group of friends who had the same interests as I do, and I blended in pretty well.
     
    A social life? Never heard of that.
    But really, I don't have one, I'm very much a hikikomori. It's mostly my severe anxiety that keeps me inside and afraid to really go out much.
     
    Mm, I don't go out much. I'd like to go out more. ATM, I work overnights which means my social life takes a huge hit. Can't go out much 'cause I'll be expected at work soon after I get together with friends. And then I have to find time to sleep enough to feel rested to work again the next night.

    Some of my best friends are from PC and other online communities, so it's not feasible to hang out with them. Other friends are still studying. Some are in town, I just don't make enough of an effort to go out with them.

    I think tl;dr I'd like to go out more. I enjoy it. It feels good.
     
    I'd like to have more of a social life than I do right now but I'm kinda shy about making friends and a lot of "outings" just aren't for me. I do go out with friends from time to time but it's usually the same people and the same type of thing every time. It honestly gets boring :s Ideally if I ever move away from here I will start fresh and just meet a nice new group of people and find new things to do because there just isn't a whole lot to do with friends here, sadly.
     
    In high school I had a few close friends but they didn't go to school with me. I would see them on weekends and hang out with them after school or all summer. The people I was friends with at school were simply just school friends, I didn't have much in common with them and I haven't spoken to 99% of them since graduating.

    I had a lot of friends early college, I was out almost 5-6 nights a week until like 3am. I had different groups that had different interests and had a lot of fun. Then we all transferred, moved, got jobs and got reeeeeealll busy. Which is basically where I'm at now. That weird phase where basically all your friends are moving on and getting married and having kids, getting jobs, moving away. I think I only have a couple of friends in the city now and our schedules never line up with all our weird hours & graduate school.

    I'd like to go out more and hang out with people more, I won't lie. I'm just SO bad at reaching out and meeting people. I swear, this is why all my friends from school are extroverts. But, I do cherish all my other friendships, no matter how far away they might be now. I also don't put up distinctions between "irl" and "online" friends. A friends a friend, I don't care where they are.
     
    I have 2 close friends in my school which I usually hang out with, I'm having a hard time when socializing with my other friends that I don't use to.
     
    I recently moved to a new state, so I don't really know anyone.
     
    I don't have a social life nor many real life friends. Talking with people IRL is rare. I'm in several online communities like NEEThaven, and some private reddit community.
    This is nothing bad, as I have online friends, and I like staying alone.
     
    Me and my closest friends are complete idiots, really hard to explain this in words, so I'll paint you a picture:
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    No idea why we're all friends, but we do what we do xD. Aside my closest friends, I'm pretty friendly with most of my classmates in all my classes. We all go out to lunch after class sometimes and have a good time.

    In terms of going out, I go out about 3-4 nights a week while the remainder are dedicated to writing papers and doing other assignments for my classes. I'm a pretty social guy, but I don't do anything too major like partying every week (I may pop into one or two a month, but it's not a regular occurrence). I like driving to Washington D.C. some nights to just watch a Basketball game or visit local venues/restaurants/clubs. I don't like drinking with people that much either. I may have a beer or two if it's a special occurrence (Party, Special Dinner, Watching the Waking Dead <3 ) but nothing that's too much for me to handle. In the story I put above I only drank more than my usual is because my friends and me were just having a good time and I got carried away (I try not to do that ;_; ). When I'm out though, I almost always have to get some sort of Slurpee or Milkshake. I'm addicted to cold drinks, and I drag anyone I'm out with to a 7-11/Chik-Fil-A in order to get a Slurpee/Milkshake. It's just a must when I'm out.

    My social life as a whole is pretty decent. I try to keep things clean (No Drugs, Very low-key alcohol, and nothing overly explicit) so that when I put in my applications to the FBI/DoD/etc. I'll have a really solid background check so nothing will crawl up to hurt me in the end.
     
    Well right now I'm basically bed-ridden. When I'm not an invalid though I think I have a fairly healthy IRL social life. I don't go out hugely often but I'd see a lot of my closer friends at dancing all the time anyway and I make an effort to hang out with other friends whenever we're both available.

    My social circle IRL has definitely shrunk since I left high school but I'm alright with that because the ones left are the ones who I'm closest to. Even the friends who I might only manage to see every few months or so are very close ones and when we do manage to meet up it's like no time has passed at all.
     
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