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I've got no social skills.

Palamon

Palamon

Silence is Purple
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    How are your social skills?
     
    I'm just too awkward and shy. I'm too afraid to try to talk to people and usually wait for others to talk to me. If I try to talk to people, I don't know what to say and say something weird. I usually can't respond to basic questions like "how are you doing" without sounding unsure or unconfident in myself. I always word things awkwardly. I don't understand the people around me even though they are from the same background as me. I'm not into same hobbies as everyone else and have different priorities from everyone else. Lat semester, when I lived on campus, there was only 2 people I talked to and they were people who I knew in high school. But it was always me doing the talking, they just listened. I actually felt relieved to be home on the weekends to talk to my family. I would often go the entire week without talking to anyone else. I just felt so out of place at college. So yeah, I don't have any social skills.
     
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    Not as bad as some peoples but they could improve a bit
     
    Nearly completely nonexistant. I go out of my way to not interact w/people and usually only spoke when spoken to. I don't care to improve my social skills at all, either.
     
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    My social skills is really poor. When someone starts a conversation with me, I struggle on thinking what to say next.
     
    I'm definitely more of an introvert and prefer small groups, but I can socialize and get along with people I don't know too well. I can hold a conversation well.

    I would say my social skills have improved vastly over the past few years as ive stepped out of my comfort zone little by little. Part of what helped me was realizing that i was just unhappy not socializing with other people. I need alone time to recharge, but its also healthy for me to hang out with others too. After going on a few dates with girls I realized i needed to whip myself into shape socially. It also helps me feel more confident.

    I guess I would rate my social skills a 8/10. Im definitely awkward sometimes and I still prefer to keep to myself or my small group of friends, but my skills are good if I need them.
     
    I don't know as I have no desire to appease the masses with who I am or how I interact. Most of them are all tools anyway so what they think of my social skills is insignificant.
     
    awful. i almost never interact with people and usually wait for them to talk to me first. if someone does talk to me i usually struggle on what to say next because i haven't had like.. actual conversation with someone besides online or people from school about anything besides school in..ages. uh. yeah. interacting with people is hard.
     
    Well I am shy and prefer small groups of known people. I tend to have one to five very close friends and then all of the other people are majorly acquaintances.

    If I had to describe my problems, they are: 1. I'm afraid of taking the initiative, and 2. I constantly try and avoid potential conflicts, so that always plays against me.

    Thank you very much, highschool. Before it I was very sociable, but I had the bad luck of being in a class where anyone took the smallest chance to pick on me.
     
    I like to think I have sufficient social skills. My main issue is creating small talk. If I have nothing to say, I won't. If you pressure me into speaking to you when I have nothing to say, I won't. Also, I'm much more sociable and outgoing when my day is going well and my mind is clear, so I tend to present myself in a more extroverted manner.
     
    There's probably some way to write out a formula for this, but as the number of people I'm around increases, my social skills equally decrease, until I feel massively trapped in a bubble of silence. XD

    One on one or small groups are not so bad, but after a few years of doing weekly group and individual therapy sessions, my social skills haven't really improved much, so I kind of think I'm stuck this way. During that time, my therapists all pointed out that I have horrible eye contact during a conversation, and I rarely show any sign of really listening. That's what they see, but on my end I just really don't feel comfortable looking people in the eyes, and I prefer to silently listen to what someone is saying for a good while before I ever respond with my thoughts on it. Just like when I was in school, I preferred to be drawing a lot while really listening to what everyone is saying, and then drop in my 2 cents when it felt right. After a while of doing this in the group therapy, my therapists learned to not tell me to not be drawing, since it was clear that I was really paying attention.

    Oh and lastly, I tend to mumble a lot. In my ears, my speech sounds totally normal and coherent, but other people have a hard time understanding me, which I often forget about and then I get ticked off. It's bad, but it's not as bad as Kenny in South Park, lol. XD

    Edit: Oh, if TL;DR: Poor.
     
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