virginity

[El Héroe Oscuro]

I felt dirty for months following that break-up because my own values told me that, though natural, I was tainted in a way that I honestly felt I couldn't hold myself in a high esteem anymore. I was dirty. I don't quite feel that way anymore now, esp. since my boyfriend enjoys my experience, but I'm still not content with myself.

For some, sex is higher than natural. I understand instinct and the basic need to procreate. My views on sex are much more, I don't know, dignified? I'm very much for "one person and only one" rather than the "testing the waters - all of them!" method.

I see where you are coming from. I was raised by a pretty strict Christian family so I was raised on those values that sex should only be with the one you've married. It took a long time for my girlfriend at the time to convince me to have sex, and afterwards I remember feeling dirty and almost tainted.

But that's perfectly natural. Eventually, I think a lot of people's values evolve as you get older, which may or may not happen to you as well. That's how I ended up becoming a pretty sexually active playboy (woo?).I really don't care what people think of me because of it. As long as I don't retain any STDs, than I see no issue in having sex with numerous people.

 

[Nathan]

I'm similar in that I feel shame for how it unfolded. I was young and uneducated. I thought it was going to last, and it didn't. I wanted to save myself for the person I truly felt I was going to marry, and even after six years I tried so hard, but it would never have worked.

I felt dirty for months following that break-up because my own values told me that, though natural, I was tainted in a way that I honestly felt I couldn't hold myself in a high esteem anymore. I was dirty. I don't quite feel that way anymore now, esp. since my boyfriend enjoys my experience, but I'm still not content with myself.

For some, sex is higher than natural. I understand instinct and the basic need to procreate. My views on sex are much more, I don't know, dignified? I'm very much for "one person and only one" rather than the "testing the waters - all of them!" method.

So I kinda understand where Minerva is coming from, but I can't say the reasoning is the same. I feel similar, though.

Didn't think of it that way tbh.

 

[Shining Raichu]

I would be a little concerned about that, hopefully it wasn't on some silly drunk escapade xD Even if it was though, kindove odd how you wouldn't remember his name. Especially if it was your first time.

Lol it seems really unseemly the way I said it, doesn't it? No, I only don't remember his name because everybody at school referred to him by a nickname based on his last name, "Robby" short for Robinson.

 

[Belldandy]

I see where you are coming from. I was raised by a pretty strict Christian family so I was raised on those values that sex should only be with the one you've married. It took a long time for my girlfriend at the time to convince me to have sex, and afterwards I remember feeling dirty and almost tainted.

But that's perfectly natural. Eventually, I think a lot of people's values evolve as you get older, which may or may not happen to you as well. That's how I ended up becoming a pretty sexually active playboy (woo?).I really don't care what people think of me because of it. As long as I don't retain any STDs, than I see no issue in having sex with numerous people.

Yeah, I'm still discontent, but I don't let it pollute my current relationship. My current man makes me feel safe, accepted and frankly, he actively spoils me emotionally. I still regret not having found "the one" at the time I lost it, but I'm definitely happy where I am now.

That said, I wasn't raised in a particularly Christian family. I went to church a bit, but it was more how I perceived relationships on a whole. I'll always feel this way: one man for one woman. Cheating is 100% unacceptable. If someone's cheated before, I wouldn't even consider them. It really narrows my field to think like this, though, as avid bar-goers, club-goers etc. are out of my "dignified" scope. I would never consider anyone who had relations with a vast amount of people. I don't find "experience" sexy; I find it disgusting and unsightly.

The bar thing is probably because of my brother and his friends for the most part. He would always tell me that that's the only reason him and his buds went to the bar: to pick up chicks for one-nighters. It makes me puke.

But it's quite different for other people, and I won't tell them what to do or what not to do. I do have very firm views, though, and it's really all that I have left after I basically spoiled myself due to the last relationship not working out.

Really, to each their own :) I might just be more old-fashioned. I don't think I'm a prude in any case for being sexually exclusive or "picky" that a dedicated, serious relationship is a must before engaging in any kind of activity. I just agree to disagree and let it be that! :P

 

[UsagiKurimu]

Are you a virgin?: Yes, yes I am. But, only out of pure good karma am I still one...

How old were you when you lost your virginity?: (more like Almost lost it~) 15, my current age... I'm still a virgin, but due to the way I look and the flithiness of certain Human hormones-(Thinking about my old BF in Tokyo, that scumbag!!!) I came too dangerously close to losing it, and my life in the process...

Do you regret it?: Absolutely, even though I haven't had my virginity taken, I'm very reluctant to trust anyone... I should have been smart enough to know what my ex-bf was up to. Even now I cringe at the sight of a happy couple...

How many people have you slept with?: Well, I didn't sleep with him, so I would have to say zero.

Do you think there is a right age or time for someone to lose their virginity?: I would rather be 21 or heck, even an old woman before I lost mine! Once you get faced with the possible horror of having to deal with something you didn't want, it's painful. And you'd be lucky to make it with your sanity! Men that go around hitting on women that are blinded by their hormones are Wrong, and should be trying to HELP them by NOT giving them what they think they want. But if you really want to do what you're going to do, just remember, none of us are going to sympathize with you after we warned you~ Like they say, "Better Safe, Then Sorry".

 

[Sage Ebock]

I can honestly say that when i lost my virginity, it was kinda like a baby tooth falling out or something. lol. Just happened when my hormones kicked in to "high gear" and the "right" set of circumstances came together. No regrets because I've always tried to act with positivity first and foremost.

On a side note, nice to know not every human male is a hound dog... Just sayin... nice not to be ruled by that second brain we guys have :P

 

[El Héroe Oscuro]

On a side note, nice to know not every human male is a hound dog... Just sayin... nice not to be ruled by that second brain we guys have :P

I'm just going to slink away into the darkness now...

 

[Sage Ebock]

rofl

+10 points of awesome

 

[Azire]

I understand what kind of website I'm on but I am still honestly surprised by a lot of the views about sex on here. Is it really that big of a deal? Then the people that have had sex that still think it's a big deal. I don't understand that at all. It's just something you do, it can be good, can be bad, depending on your partner. This is one reason why I would never wait for marriage. I guess the only benefit I really see to waiting till marriage is you won't necessarily know if it was bad as you have nothing to compare it too. I've personally slept with some girls that I would rather masterbate than do it again, hopefully you don't marry somebody like that.

Due to the responses this thread has received I will not be posting an age or number lol. I must be the devil by this point already. Of course I am in my mid 20's and have lived more but I had my first threesome at 17. It was me and my best friend with a girl we knew back from elementary school. Actually New Years Eve 2004 into New Years Day 2005.

The best thing I can say about a best age? Just do it or don't. It really isn't a big deal. It's just another thing. An awesome thing but just a thing. Why does sex have to be some significant important decision? It's just sex!!

All that being said, I have two guaranteed children, I pay my child support and have great relationships with both mothers and children when I talk to them. I don't personally understand the stigma it has with people now, I don't even remember it being this big of a deal when I grew up.

Who cares if somebody sleeps with people they just met? If I meet a girl at the bar and we sleep together, never talk to each other again, that doesn't make us bad people. We knew what we wanted and we got it, it's that simple. I don't regret drinking a beer or two after work either, how is this all that different?

Okay I feel like I'm ranting, I just don't understand why this has so much significance.

 

[Ultramarine]

Yes I'm still a virgin. I also will absolutely remain one until marriage (and I might not even marry, so, well, forever-chaste!) for two reasons.
1. Catholicism says to. This sounds very blindly obedient, but it's really not that difficult, for me at least. I'm not gonna get all religious because this is a secular website, but the way I see it, suck it up and calm your hormones. But what do I know?
2. I'm in no hurry. I guess I'm asexual, so there's that. I get it's all about "satisfaction" and whatever, but I get all my satisfaction watching FRIENDS and snacking on goldfish. I just don't see any appeal to sex, and I find it quite stupid to do it before you can take care of a baby, in case something goes wrong. I'm not one for abortion either, if you haven't picked that up.

On a side note, I have seen many people (not necessarily on this site, heck, I haven't been on in forever) saying that "don't you want to test drive something before you buy it" and statements of that variety. Is that what marriage is? Is that what it means to some people? Good sex? Puh-lease. Sure, your significant other may not always be good in bed, but that's what matters when marrying someone? No. I know I'm over exaggerating, but it's 1:06 and I've had too much sugar, so yah.

To sum it up, I'm religious and asexual. Woop!

 

[gimmepie]

Well awkward feels aside, yes I am a virgin.

The why is pretty simple, I'm waiting for someone else. I have had the opportunity before but I didn't take it because I wasn't actually dating the girl at the time and whilst I don't are about sex before marriage I am pretty big on sex being something shared between lovers.

I don't really think that there's a right time although the age of consent is something we should stick to.

In all honesty, I am fine with being a virgin. I feel a bit awkward about it sometimes sure but in the long run it isn't that big of a milestone and their are far bigger things I want to achieve in my life than having sex.

 

[Ghost Lunis]

I understand what kind of website I'm on but I am still honestly surprised by a lot of the views about sex on here. Is it really that big of a deal? Then the people that have had sex that still think it's a big deal. I don't understand that at all. It's just something you do, it can be good, can be bad, depending on your partner. This is one reason why I would never wait for marriage. I guess the only benefit I really see to waiting till marriage is you won't necessarily know if it was bad as you have nothing to compare it too. I've personally slept with some girls that I would rather masterbate than do it again, hopefully you don't marry somebody like that.

Due to the responses this thread has received I will not be posting an age or number lol. I must be the devil by this point already. Of course I am in my mid 20's and have lived more but I had my first threesome at 17. It was me and my best friend with a girl we knew back from elementary school. Actually New Years Eve 2004 into New Years Day 2005.

The best thing I can say about a best age? Just do it or don't. It really isn't a big deal. It's just another thing. An awesome thing but just a thing. Why does sex have to be some significant important decision? It's just sex!!

All that being said, I have two guaranteed children, I pay my child support and have great relationships with both mothers and children when I talk to them. I don't personally understand the stigma it has with people now, I don't even remember it being this big of a deal when I grew up.

Who cares if somebody sleeps with people they just met? If I meet a girl at the bar and we sleep together, never talk to each other again, that doesn't make us bad people. We knew what we wanted and we got it, it's that simple. I don't regret drinking a beer or two after work either, how is this all that different?

Okay I feel like I'm ranting, I just don't understand why this has so much significance.

You mentioned this one to me so I checked it out.lol But don't worry my friend. You are still a angel compared to some of the things I have done. XD.
I really hadn't thought about it until I read some of the responses here, but IF there is a hell, I guess I'm headed there to rule or something.
Orgies, threesomes, too many one night stands to bother remembering names, trains, drunken and otherwise intoxicated sexcapades, married women, pregnant women, and others I don't even feel comfortable mentioning out loud.
I guess I should start looking for a good pitchfork now.....

 

[Magic Christmas Lights]

I'm asexual but bi/pan romantic, so I never really want sex. Ever.

Despite that! I am not a virgin. Whoo boy, I am not a virgin by a long shot, and have not been one since I was 15. I lost it while Paper Mario was playing in the background at midnight when my parents were asleep. It hurt cuz I wasn't into it but I did love the guy I was doing it with and felt good doing something he wanted to do.

I had my first threesome at 17. It was underwhelming.

 

[Sage Ebock]

You mentioned this one to me so I checked it out.lol But don't worry my friend. You are still a angel compared to some of the things I have done. XD.
I really hadn't thought about it until I read some of the responses here, but IF there is a hell, I guess I'm headed there to rule or something.
Orgies, threesomes, too many one night stands to bother remembering names, trains, drunken and otherwise intoxicated sexcapades, married women, pregnant women, and others I don't even feel comfortable mentioning out loud.
I guess I should start looking for a good pitchfork now.....

I would like to make a suggestion.

Get a mob with pitchforks instead, lol. jk

You did right by my credo :D

 

[Entermaid]

From the questions asks on here, I sound angelic myself.

But, if you were to ask how many times, in general, I have done the deed...

That number is well over 500 (who can keep track after 10?)
Number of partners: 1

Just to clarify if anyone is calling into question my 'sperience and skillz. I gotz them. (Or at least I like to think I do.)

 

[Yukimura Tenshin]

Personally I myself am a virgin and am currently thinking over what I want to do in life and personally it doesn't matter if I were to have a girlfriend but let's just say that I may choose to be a virgin for the rest of my life as seeing I may become Buddhist monk

 

[Ghost Lunis]

I would like to make a suggestion.

Get a mob with pitchforks instead, lol. jk

You did right by my credo :D

Lmao a mob of pitchforks does seem fitting.

 

[Azire]

In response to "test driving a car before you buy it" no marriage isn't all about sex but it is still an important part. Relationships in general are about love, understanding and yes sex. These are natural things people desire.

A marriage or relationship without any one of those I would see as painful. It's simply a matter of having somebody you're completely happy with. I've had relationships end because they were missing one of those key points.

I don't view sex as something that is so important that one must only do it with somebody you love but a relationship without it? To be completely honest, if I were going to have a relationship without sex? I have no need because my friends fill that hole.

My best friend I love, we have understanding in our relationship and no sex, (it's a boy!! Lol). I mean the difference between being my friend and girlfriend is purely sexual.

In short, what is the purpose of a relationship without sex? Also don't take sex too seriously. I think it's perfectly fine to have it outside of a relationship. It's not something reserved between two people of importance.

I would rather play games online with my friends and it's a lot more fun when I do play with friends but that doesn't mean I restrict my online gameplay to only playing with friends.

 

[Captain Gizmo]

Spoiler:

Am I a virgin? No
Lost it when I was 16 with my current girlfriend I got now. I don't regret it since I lost it with someone I really care about. As for when someone should lose their virginity, it should be when both of them are at least old and mature enough to know what the hell they'll be doing and knowing the risk. Because... two 12 years old kids going at it? Not something people would wanna see or hear about.

 

[Garrabutártulo]

Am I really doing this??



Are you a virgin?
No.

How old were you when you lost your virginity?
18

Do you regret it?
No. There were a series of circunstances that made it strange and can't be proud of what I did, but I don't regret it.

How many people have you slept with?
2.

Do you think there is a right age or time for someone to lose their virginity?
Yeah, but it's different for each person.

My sides, dude, my sides!