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introverts unite?

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    [PokeCommunity.com] introverts unite?


    Are you an introvert or extrovert? How do you know/notice that?

    Do you really believe these are distinctions that make sense anyways?
     
    i am very much introverted. social interactions exhaust me a lot, and always have. i can put on an extroverted persona, but even that gets tiring. i think my introvertedness/social awkwardness really shows to people when i'm incapable of having any sort of small talk. @__@ i'd really rather just vibe and be in my own bubble (if that makes sense...) than awkwardly try to force myself to have conversations with people.

    unfortunately, this backfires on me somewhat because i feel lonely a lot of times as i feel like i isolate myself a little too much, but alas. it is what it is.
     
    Definitely an introvert. Too much time socialising and interacting with others is more draining and exhausting to me than most physical labour.

    That's not to say I don't enjoy socialising though. That's a misconception about introversion. It's about the mental/physical/emotional resources socialisation consumes more than it's about an aversion to it. I actually like being around people in small groups, it's just that there's a limit to how much of that I can handle before it becomes overwhelming and I need time to myself to reset. Although, by the same token, I'm generally very comfortable with my own company too.
     
    Introvert, yes.

    Had people try to correct me as a kid, because woe be you who is not extroverted and you must be made normal.
    I went along with it for a bit and tried it, which did break me out my shell a bit. Didn't feel comfortable going any further.
    So then I just went efffffff all of y'all and stopped co-operating. Took a while but eventually they realised there was no point pushing me any further as I can be stubborn as a mule.
    I decided for myself back then that you either accept me the way I am or we won't be affiliated in any way whatsoever.
     
    I'm introverted most of the time because I want my life to be as peaceful as I can get it. I don't do workplace or any other drama, and I'm honestly hesitant to make friends.
    That being said, I'll reciprocate other's attempts to talk to me, and I'll be more talkative the more I interact with you.
     
    Less introverted, just super picky about who i enjoy spending time with.

    And if I actually go out of my way to message someone or communicate when i'm not obligated, it means I probably really like them.
     
    For sure introverted, for all the classic reasons: I tend to "recharge" when I'm alone, or at least not pressured to make conversation, and it can be exhausting for me to be in social situations, especially for extended periods of time.

    One thing that comes to mind are weddings. I had to go to a wedding where seating was pre-determined, and the tables were loooong, stretching out from one end of the room to the other. Which meant there were very few people I could speak to, and I barely knew most of them. God, nightmare scenario: three course meal where you barely know the people in your immediate vicinity. Get me OUT OF THERE!

    I do think the distinction has merit, but as with most "categorical" labels, I'd say I fall somewhere in between, but leaning further introverted. When I'm around people I'm comfortable with, I like socializing. It's not as exhausting for me. It's when I'm around acquaintances or people I don't have anything in common with that I find it challenging. I don't particularly like sitting or standing around in silence, but I also find it hard to make conversation. It's a tricky place to be in.
     
    Extrovert. I crave social interaction constantly. I think on the Myers-Briggs examination my extroversion was around 90% the last time I took it. I'm immensely talkative and I enjoy spending time with others the most. Establishing deep connections with people is perhaps my favourite thing to do.
     
    Introvert. Finds it difficult to untangle from other factors. Saps a lot of mental energy through social anxiety. Acts quite asocially in real life too.

    Might point to this forum as the clearest example of introversion. Incurs a minor energy cost to post. Avoids doing so when tired. Browses more during those times. Shows up here eventually anyways.

    Considers the distinction between introvert and extrovert useful. Describes what people experience, in general. Warns against tying too much to them, however.
     
    Oh yeah, definitely introverted. The only time I can carry a lengthy or fulfilling conversation is if it's about something I like or am passionate about (like anime or color guard). I can do decent in one-on-one conversations, but when there are three or more people, I tend to fade into the background and not say much. I don't thrive off of social interactions. Sometimes I like to "talk" or "argue" with myself, idk about the rest of you though
     
    RadEmpoleon said:
    Oh yeah, definitely introverted. The only time I can carry a lengthy or fulfilling conversation is if it's about something I like or am passionate about (like anime or color guard). I can do decent in one-on-one conversations, but when there are three or more people, I tend to fade into the background and not say much. I don't thrive off of social interactions. Sometimes I like to "talk" or "argue" with myself, idk about the rest of you though
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    I think that sounds more like how social you are, not necessarily about intro/extravertism.

    I'm a bit of both but mostly introverted, I think. When I've been completely alone for a couple of days, I go crazy or sad and really crave human interaction. But living with another person (that I actually talk to and hug lmao) seems to be enough to fulfill my basic IRL needs ahah. I love taking it easy in the evenings after work, and even though weekends filled with friends are fun, I wish I had 3 day weekends for those so I could rest afterwards haha.

    I think basically I'm a decently socially apt introvert who can't be alone for too long :3 sounds contradicting? Nah.
     
    I'm so, so introverted. I prefer not talking to people unless I'm already close/comfortable with them, and it's difficult to get to that stage most of the time since I'm a bit picky with who I continue connecting with irl haha. Not that I ever go out of my way to actively ignore people but like... I tend not to talk to them first and that just ends up with us disconnecting. And I almost never hang out with people lol.

    Since I'm super introverted and love being indoors lockdowns as a result of COVID usually don't bother me much. But my mental health still gets stressed from being forced to stay indoors too long... I need my walks to stay mentally healthy. D:
     
    I'm very introverted nowadays I get exhausted quickly holding conversations for too long or too often. I need time and space to recharge alone and it's important in my relationships that people know and respect this. I sometimes have trouble keeping up friendships as I get drained too quickly and don't talk often enough but I realise friendship is a two way street so for relationships I want to keep I do my best to talk more even if it can be more exhausting. It's interesting as in the past I was extroverted and would get super drained being alone so I always wanted to spend time around other people. Nowadays it is the total opposite and holding even small conversations everyday even can be overwhelming at times. :P
     
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