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self confidence

I don't... really have much, if any.

I genuinely don't say this as some sort of "woe is me" response, having worsening depression over the years meant that I've never really had confidence in myself to do much. If I excel at something, that's great! But generally I keep my expectations fairly low, because at least if I mess up at something, it won't hurt me too much. If I have my confidence high and know I do something fairly well and then something arises in which I've messed up on, it tends to drag me down a lot more. So I've just learned over the years to keep my self-confidence pretty low because that's just what I'm used to.

It sucks, but I've long since accepted that's just how things are.
 
I think I've figured out having bipolar as one of the symptoms is feeling self-important. I do a 180 constantly, I'm someone who can do anything as long as she tries but I'm also someone who's broken beyond repair and a failure. Sometimes I feel these at the same time.
 
i'm happy in the knowledge that i can compartmentalise my own feelings of self-confidence, whatever they may be at the time, and put on a show that does the exact job that it needs to
self-confidence is not something i struggle with, it's just something that can be adapted pragmatically like anything i do
 
Sometimes I have fine self confidence, but other times I think it's all a joke and I have really not much at all. I guess that comes from years of having no self confidence at all, so now when I do have it, it feels odd. lol I'm definitely better than I used to be.
 
I was reading a book recently and the author's hypothesis was, essentially, that instead of terms like "self-confidence" and "self-esteem," a more accurate description of how we should feel about ourselves would be "self-acceptance." How we feel about ourselves is usually determined through "self-rating": comparing ourselves to others, thinking that we should be slimmer, smarter etc than other people/our past selves, and if we think the comparison is unfavourable, then we become unhappy. Those who are happy are those who do less of this, or who make the comparison and accept the results. In other words, our self-confidence, if you want to call it that, is developed solely in relation to other people. Think imposter syndrome and so on. Which is why the author advocates "self-acceptance" as what we should be working on.

All that said, anyway - I think I'm pretty good at self-acceptance and self-confidence. I'm a perfectionist and my own worst critic, but that's generally in relation to the work I'm producing; otherwise, I yam what I yam an' tha's all I yam!
 
Reasonably high without reaching arrogance (most of the time). I had problems back in early high school, but college helped me grow out of it.

Solez said:
I was reading a book recently and the author's hypothesis was, essentially, that instead of terms like "self-confidence" and "self-esteem," a more accurate description of how we should feel about ourselves would be "self-acceptance."
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My initial reaction was skepticism, but on second thought, that does actually make sense. Confidence is something that tends to come naturally and to a reasonable level when you're at peace with yourself and accept yourself as you are (this can include recognizing the need for self-improvement). And yeah, I also think it's important to derive your self-worth from judgments you make about yourself rather than judgments other people make about you. Other peoples' evaluation of you should, at most, be taken as advice, not as the primary metric you use to evaluate yourself.
 
I'm weird when it comes to this I think. My self-confidence is very... situational I guess for want of a better word. For the most part, I'm not a very self-confident person. I'm constantly evaluating myself poorly and I have a lot of self-doubt. But, when you put me into a position where I excel or find myself defending an ideal that is important to me, I do a total 180 and become extremely confident and self-assured.

You either get me with no confidence or confidence at max with little room in-between.
 
i have little to no self confidence. im only rlly confident in my writing abilities. other than that, well.. i don't have a lot. theres the occasional selfie i think i look pretty in. but.. im still working on trying to get self confidence. it's difficult when some of my family puts me down for stuff i can't control. but i'm working on it.
 
It depends - sometimes I can have moderate self-confidence. Other days, I have little to none. One thing that has helped me maintain some degree of self confidence was to stop trying to actively compare myself to other people's accomplishments and traits. I'd never realised how toxic it was for my confidence until I realised that because I'd been comparing myself so much, I could never feel satisfied or happy with what I'd accomplished because I always thought I could be doing better like other people I knew. But yeah, trying to change that mindset has helped me be happier with who I am and more patient and realistic with myself :) Still definitely have insecurities and can berate or be overly critical of myself but I am working on it! It's a process.
 
It's highly situational for me, and I feel I still have much improvement to make for my self confidence.
 
Never had the chance to really develop any tbh? Abused and bullied since I first became conscious.
 
It fluctuates w/my mood, honestly. There are times my self confidence is completely non-existent, and there are times where my self confidence is quite prevalent, but oftentimes, I really don't have a lot.
 
I suffer from fairly low self-confidence, and that has affected me both positively and negatively. In my working life, especially in a creative field, my low self-confidence meant that I never approached my work with an arrogant attitude, and I always knew there was room for me to improve. I've seen progress in my ability and, while I've gained confidence in my ability because of that, I still approach my work with critically with the goal of perpetually improving.

In social circles, my lack of self-confidence is much more crippling. I constantly question if I annoy people, or if my tone of voice puts people off. I realize I speak a lot like my father - in a factual, monotonous way. I assume it's not always easy to pick up any nuances in my speech, which can sometimes throw people off. Of course, that might all just be in my head, and this mindset might be stemming from my lack of self-confidence.
 
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