Do you want to have children?

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    Members of PC: Do you want to have children at some point? If so, how many would you want to have? Do you already have kids - or watch your own siblings as if you were their step-in parent? Or do you not want kids at all? (If not, and you feel comfortable, feel free to let us know why!)
     
    Yes, I would absolutely love to have children. I've wanted to since I was 16 funnily enough. My childhood was very bad, and I learned a great deal about how not to treat them from my own experience. The few times I've had the chance to watch a friend of mine's kid have been some of the best moments of my life and I wish I could do it every day.
    As for how many, I'd say as many as I'm safely able to support.
     
    I've never wanted to have kids, and I don't see that changing. I really doubt I'd make a good parent. I also financially cannot afford to have any, and given the way things are going in the world, that's certainly not going to improve. It's such a huge change in your life and such a huge responsibility, and I don't think I'll ever be up for that, I don't really have the personality to suddenly make my life revolve around that. And since I live in the US, it's like....you go through all the trouble of having and raising a kid, just for them to get gunned down on their 3rd day of kindergarten (or all the other ways the system kills children) and all you get in return is the millionth round of "thoughts and prayers".
     
    I don't foresee myself having kids at all. I already feel burnt out after I get home from work. I cannot imagine having to take care of kids on top of that.
     
    Nahhh.

    I mean, I do love kids—seriously!

    …In small, manageable doses 😅

    I've babysat my friends' little chaos gremlins more times than I can count: a 4-year-old and 7-year-old at the same time, a wild 2-year-old, and even an 8-month-old potato with legs (`･ω･´)
     
    Honestly, I'm still mentally a child myself thanks to various disabilities so... I don't think I'd really want to have children. Maybe if I ever find the right guy who is capable of helping me and stuff... sure. Or anyone for that matter, since I'm panromantic... I really don't want to call out any kind of gender/pronoun(s)
     
    It's funny, because just this morning, I was thinking that my dogs are like my children, even though I don't see them that way. But the sheer amount of energy, money, and time that I devote to them makes it come off that way!

    I was always more interested in raising animals than in having children, or even having a family. It just felt like too much that would tie me down, especially when I was younger and had no idea what I was doing with life. Plus, it just feels like the universe is attempting to snip off this branch of the family tree. Three out of four of my uncles died without ever having children. I'm an only child. Other "removed" relatives (parents' cousins) never had children. It's a very very very tiny family.
     
    No. That is a MASSIVE responsibility that I do not want to handle, and I don't really like children that much. I'm also not really interested in finding a partner to raise the hypothetical child. I think even a pet might be too much for me to handle, let alone another human being. Big respect to parents and anyone who wants to be a parent. It's just not for me.
     
    I can't see myself having kids. Besides the idea I just don't think it would be possible for me, I think there's so much that could go wrong when trying to raise a kid in a healthy way, and that the consequences of not having thought everything through can be really devastating. I'd absolutely hate to treat my child poorly or hurt them, or not be able to support them in a way I wish I could've been growing up.
    My parents are both wonderful people, and my dad especially is a massive inspiration to me, but I think with having a kid there's always something that they wish you could've been better at or been there for them. Right now I think I'm really focused on trying to improve myself, either being able to find success at what I'm good at or comfort myself with what I'm not, and I can't see myself being able to do a proper job of that to someone younger than me who's depending on me to do that.
    I've just always thought it would be so much better for me to never have a child rather than to let one down.
     
    I don't know. I've been hit with baby fever before, and it gets stronger the older I get. But I'm still not certain. I feel like I'd want to have a stable career and house before I would have a child (but I suppose a two bedroom apartment would suffice - mine right now is one) and I don't see the former happening soon.

    I'm also not sure if I'm the right personality... I need personal space, and you don't get personal space ever as a mom. lol I also have sensitive ears to screaming that I hear young children do in public. I don't know if I'm mom material, so-to-speak.
     
    I was 7 when I thought about having children for the first time, and I didn't want to lol. Things changed A LOT ofc, but no I still don't see myself having children. It's something that changes, though. At times, I would like to, but 95% of the times I don't. I'll say that when I had a bf it felt "more doable", so I guess that being single might have its role in this kind of decision as well.
    On the other hand, logically speaking, I'd never have a child. First of all, I am myself undecided on my future, and a lot of things can happen, so like idek where in the world I'll end up, then economic issues, and I guess myself being rather selfish, meaning that I'd rather live a more comfortable economic life only by myself, rather than also taking care of a child.
     
    When I was younger, maybe? I once did dream of having a daughter and buying her all the cute frilly, floral outfits I couldn't wear as a kid.

    But now, I'm not even considering it. I'm not in a place financially where I can, and I'd undoubtedly be the uncool parent who doesn't let my kid own a cell phone and drops them off at school in a 35-year-old car while blasting 35-year-old music from the radio.

    Besides, taking care of kids would cut into my anime and gaming time, and expose them to language that they're better off not learning.
     
    Although I am still undecided on having children, if I chose to do so, I would be happy with 2-3 children. I've babysat my nephew many times and it's definitely a feeling I don't want to miss out in life (FOMO creeping in).

    The older I become, the more intense my baby fever becomes. Also, I do believe I am in a better spot financially and mentally now than ever. I've been steady in my career for 10 years and married for 5 years. It's just a matter of time before we have little ones who can shiny hunt on the Switch 2 (or Switch 3) with me to double or triple our odds of finding shiny Pokémon!
     
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