No, it's definitely the second one with me. I will shoulder the burden and keep things to myself. I don't like a lot of drama, and prefer to silently work things out myself. I prefer people not to know too much about my private life, especially my troubles, I don't want pity or attention or to disturb others if I can avoid it. I am more likely to give advice to others then I am to seek it, and if I do ask for help it is because I hope to be offered a solution, not because I want to vent for it's own sake.
If I talk about something that is deeply personal and has upset me then I probably have been bottling up for months or years, and it's getting bad if I come out and just say it. People often do not read me correctly because I have a calm demeanor, and I can surprise people if they find out of something I am going through. However, everyone has their limits, and when I can't swallow anymore I will complain.